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Alexis,
I am so excited to hear you are going into the field!
I have found that the best way to handle conflict resolution is to tackle it before it becomes an issue. The best way I have found to do this is to form relationships with students where they know that you care and that they can trust you. If you set up a persona that is approachable and understanding, they will help you more than you help them.
My biggest advice on this is Never get angry with a kid. I remember in my first couple of years teaching high school I used to go home some nights really upset at things like, 'How dare that kid put that piece of plastic on my hot plate- he ruined it!' or 'How come they are not studying well enough for this test, they bombed it!' It was about year three or four when I realized something I wish I knew from the beginning. That kid is 15 years old! 15 year old kids do stupid things. I remember doing stupid things at fifteen! Maybe it is the fact their frontal lobe is not fully developed and they don't realize consequences, or maybe they come from a home that reinforces different values than mine. It doens't matter. They are kids and they are going to do silly, dumb things. It did me no good to get so emotionally bent out of shape over these things. Address the act, reinforce your expectations, but let the kid know that you still care about them.
I wish I knew that year one. It would have saved my wife a lot of headaches from hearing me complain in those first years.
I hope this helps,
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